Dear Single Lady
I know it not easy to be alone because I still live in that city. I also know that regardless of all the selfies and social media poses, babes are hurting. It is
also very true that if you desire a change, then you should effect a change. Do some twerks and turns. I won’t deny that, It’s baffling how Intelligent,
Eloquent, beautiful and hardworking single women end up as victims of inferiority complex, depression and bitterness because they are yet to find the
right one. They feel incomplete and empty because they are not hooked.
Fabulous sisi, who said that marriage is the end of the world? Marriage is just a part of your life, a means to an end. Don’t let your whole life revolve
around getting married. I know popular statements like “good men are hard to find “has all your hormones on high jump. Well, information reaching
me projects that the right guy is right in front you. All you need to do is become the right lady so that the right man can find you. There is no such thing
as the right one. Get over your experience from mills and boons and invest your energy in becoming the right person instead of searching for the right
person. Like attracts like.
Become who you want to end up with. Like attracts like
Meeting the “right guy” requires lots of adjustments. I am sure you know that when you want unusual results, business too must change to unusual.
Tough times call for tougher measures. Meeting the right one is not as difficult as it seems. The problem with most single people is the fact that they
are unwilling to make adjustments. I know you are a perfect human being with no flaws at all but if you give your close friends and family an
opportunity to rate you, you’d be surprised at how much you need to change.
These are a few suggestions for your change routine.
Consider a Change in your Character and Approach to life. Deliberately learn to be nicer, to be respectful, smile some more, be much more
understanding, go out of your way to make a good first impression, adjust your Physical looks if you have too. I am all for self-love but babe, if you
need to change the way you dress or your make-up approach, by all means please do. Hit the gym if you can’t deal with what you see when you look in
the mirror. If you keep looking down on yourself, don’t expect others not to. If you are not satisfied with how you look please change it.it begins with
Get Exposure. Birds of the same feathers flock together. If you want a five star man, get acquainted with five star activities. Once in a while, go out
alone don’t always go out with your friends. Go to places where you can meet the kind of guy you want. Anything can happen.
Know what you want and refuse to settle for less. Stop making excuses for why you have to go below your expectations and standards. I do not
support unrealistic expectations that have to do with bank balances and looks. Think of Value; to you and to others, what about mindset, mentality and
morals. In the end, these are the ideals that you will have to contend with for the rest of your life. Remember, all that glitters is not gold.
Move On! Forget about the emotional hurts of the past. Please stop looking for your ex (Excluded), he is your ex for a reason. Forget your stereo type,
try another kind of person. Stop looking for traits of your ex in every man you see. If you want to be with your past, please go to the past. I know you
are desperate for happiness, so face your front joh! The future belongs to those who make it happen.
Be Willing to Learn. Don’t be omniscient.it takes humility to accept lack of knowledge and it is a virtue. I am yet to meet a man who does not appreciate
a virtuous woman.
Prioritize your Needs. What are the traits of your dream man? If your list consist of ten traits, there should be five very important needs that you can’t
do without. If you can get these five out of ten in a man give it a chance. Don’t be like the immovable mount Zion. This is not you settling for less, it’s
you streamlining. You can build up the rest as you go forward.
Loose Bad Company. Show me your friend and I will explicitly tell you who you are. The company you keep determines the distance you cover. Am not
asking you to ditch your friends but if they are not willing to support you as you make these adjustments, please let them be. We don’t want to reverse
all these milestones you’ve achieved.
Finding the Right Man is not your life’s Purpuse.Your life is first of all about you and your God given purpose before it’s about your husband
and kids. Don’t live your life and get to the other side with regrets like Adele. Find your purpose and start fulfilling it. It’s so much better if you are
found at your duty post. Live your life to the full. If you can afford a car by all means buy it. If you can afford a house please buy one. If you are
promoted to the Position of CEO at your job, please accept the offer. Don’t put your life on hold for any reason. The one whose desire is to find a woman
like you will definitely find you.
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others. you never know what’s going on in their lives. All you know is what they tell you. Watch what you listen too,
watch what you watch, build a relationship with God and just live your life.it will happen when it will happen, there are no date stamps guarantees.
Dear fabulous sisi,have a proper look at your friend zone. You might just be looking in all the wrong places.
Remember, there are no time stamp guarantees, quietly accept that it’s not your fault. You have done everything within your power as a human being.
Trust God and be happy. Don’t let your relationship status steal your joy.
You happiness depends solely on you.